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Rewind

29 Mar

Image Raising our children can always involve a little bit of the good, the bad, and the ugly.  I can’t tell you how many times in a day I wish there was a rewind button that I could push.  Not only for myself as a parent but for my son as well. Remember the good old days when playing a game with friends we would say, “Do over!”

Then again, what those moments teach us is how to have compassion to those around us when they suffer from the same fate.  How many times do we hear a child or even an adult for that matter say, “Well, they did it to me first.” That is when I hear my mom’s words echo in my ears. “Two wrongs don’t make a right.”

One of the joys of being an adult that still struggles with ADD tendencies is that I am still inclined to open my mouth before realizing what just came out of my mouth. The icing on the cake comes when I witness my son doing the exact same thing!  Ugh! So where is that rewind button!!! Thank goodness that is when “God’s mercies are new every morning!”

A few days ago the tables where actually turned and I came face-to-face with someone that desperately wanted a rewind button in front of them.  A child at my son’s school said something to me that he shouldn’t have said.  When I confronted him with it, I knew he knew it too. It involved something slightly unkind that he had done to my son. What it was is really not the important issue. What transpired afterwards is.

This boy and my son have had a difficult time getting along.  Now to be fair, my son has had his moments of contribution in the matter as well. None the less, after this issue was addressed with his parents a chain of events occurred that is quite precious.

The following day both my son and I received notes of apology and my son was given a gift card to McDonald’s which was paid for by the boy from money he had earned.  Step number one is complete. I was wrong, will you forgive me?

Step two is just around the bend in my son’s response. “Mom, wasn’t that really nice? Can I use this gift card to take him to McDonald’s?” Do you see it? Yep! That is what mercy looks like.  I was so proud of my son at that moment. Every one of us wants a rewind moment in our lives. If you are like me, I want it about once a day!!  Mercy is such a powerful tool.  This morning before school my son presented him with a handmade thank you card, and an invitation to lunch to McDonald’s (today is a half-day for them).  Suddenly the relationship between them made a 180 degree turn and off they went to play.

This concept is one of the main ideas addressed in my new book Mommy, Tell Me a Story about a Fish. The main character Pearl shows compassion to the shark that bullies her every day; because of this something amazing happens to their relationship.

If we can teach our children to show forgiveness and mercy even when it might not be fully deserved, the possibilities are endless. Will it always have a happy ending? No, but will it be more happy then sad?  I would be so bold as to say, “Yes!” This does not mean that consequences should not be given when they are required, but that open arms are always waiting at the other side. We have allowed the “do over” play to come into the game of life. So maybe not a rewind button, but maybe even better.

 

 

 

It’s Coming!

18 May

ImageMeet Little Mar

 

Wow!  Time is flying by so fast.  It feels like it was just yesterday that I got an e-mail from Celebrity Chef Charles Mattocks suggesting a partnership in the development of a children’s book about diabetes. Now we are only a little over a month away from the book’s release, Diabetes & Healthy Eating, on July 4th.

 We are so excited about the potential of this book to help children all over the world cope with this difficult disease.  The more I talk to people about this book the more it solidifies how important this project is to the diabetic community.

 The average parent is trying to teach their child so many things: how to tie their shoes, how to keep their room clean, how to play nice with others.  If you are a parent you know that the list is almost endless. If you have a child with any kind of health issue, this task just becomes all the more difficult.

 At the top of this list are issues with food.  Ask any parent that has a child with food allergies or diabetes, and you will realize the amount of stress that comes with monitoring what they eat on a constant basis. Simple events like birthday parties, classroom celebrations or just eating out can become very difficult to handle. Today with so many children dealing with obesity, food is no longer becoming just a topic for these health challenges, but for all children.

 What child wants to be lectured about diet, exercise or nutrition?  No child that I know.  In fact I don’t know many adults that want that either.  This is why the idea of this book began.  How can we teach young children about these difficult issues in a fun and friendly way that will keep their attention and educate at the same time? 

 Children with diabetes and their families face such a difficult road ahead of them.  Unlike allergies that can diminish some with age or medication, Juvenile Diabetes is a life-long journey that can end very badly if not taken seriously.

 It is our prayer that this book can be a tool in making this life challenge a little easier for these little ones to face.  But we need your help to spread the word.  This book can help no one if they don’t know about it.  Please pass the information about this book to any doctors, educators, or parents that can share this with a young child that might be able to benefit from it.    

 You can pre-order this book or just learn more about Charles Mattocks and his quest to help the diabetic world by going to http://charlesmattocks.com or the direct book website @ http://charliesland.com.